How to be an ally if you are a person with privilege

Stop and ask yourself things like:

  • What does it mean to be white/heterosexual/male/cisgender/upper class (etc) in this situation?
  • Would I be listened to if I didn’t hold this privilege?
  • Is this an oppurtunity for everyone, or is this an oppurtunity ONLY given to me for any reason?
  • Notice: How people of different abilities, people of color, LGBT people, non-cisgender people, middle-class and working class people, people of size, etc, are promoted, seen, treated, and talked about.
  • Am I stepping into a situation where someone is not being listened to because of their gender, identity, race, sexuality, etc. Am I making sure everyone is getting the same chance to express their opinions?
  • Am I interupting an offensive joke made towards a target group?

These are just a few things you can ask yourself to make sure you are actively being an ally to people who are different than you, and not abusing your power as a privilege group member.

To get more information on this topic, here are some great resources:

What do you think it means to be an ally? Comment below and let me know!

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“Sluts”

This is the quote of the day! It is by Elissa Sursara:

“If someone calls you a slut, there’s nothing you can say to refute the claim because it never had any cognitive content anyway. Even virginity is not a defense against alleged sluttiness. Virgins can be sluts if they dress the wrong way, walk the wrong way, or even instill the wrong thoughts in other people. Some people will convict you of sluttitude because your body is the wrong shape, or the right shape. What determines sluttiness? Is it number of partners, or the number of sex acts, or the kind of sex, or whether you enjoy it, or what other people infer about your self-esteem based on what they assume about your sex life? It’s all of the above, or none of the above. Either way, you lose. Maybe it has nothing to do with you at all. Maybe it’s because your accuser is racist or classist and your “sluttiness” is built into some stereotype that was clanking around in their head before they ever met you. If you try to argue that you’re not a slut, you’re implicitly buying into the idea that there are sluts out there. If there’s some criterion that will set you free, that standard will indict someone else—someone with a higher “number,” or shorter skirt, or a later curfew. So we get bogged down in slut/non-slut border skirmishes over a line nobody should have tried to draw in the first place, and we all lose. The only “refutation” is to laugh in your accuser’s face and get on with your life, however you choose to live it.”

I LOVE this quote. What do you think about it? Comment below and let me know! (:

How Racism Plays Out

Once again, this is from the camp I went to, CLI. This is what we came up with:

How Racism Plays Out in Schools

  • Deragatory terms towards racial groups
  • Racist jokes
  • Assumptions made my looking at your skin color
  • Teachers expecting white kids to be smarter and acting shocked when a person of color knows the right answer
  • Seperation in social groups
  • Teachers trying to help white students get their grades up, and not the students of color.

How Racism Plays Out in the Community

  • Racial Profiling
  • Negative comments about biracial couples
  • Seperated social groups
  • Gang injunction

What we Can Do:

  • Talk to the administration about whats going on
  • Help the administration focus on equity
  • Come together
  • Be friends with people of all different races
  • Educate community members
  • Stand up to people saying racists comments
  • Raise awareness about whats going on in different ways

Maybe this will give you an idea of how to stop racism in your community and notice how it plays out. Comment below and let me know your expiriences with racism in the community! Photo from Google Images (: