Rape is NEVER funny

I notice that a lot of people seem to joke around about rape nowadays, which isn’t okay AT ALL. I hear people say things like “Haha your totally raping me right now!” and things of that sort. Here are the main reasons I believe rape jokes are horrible and innipropriate:

  • According to UCR (the FBI’s crime stats), there were 92,455 rapes in the US in 2006. 1 in 6 women have been raped, and 33% of men. That means that you most likely know someone who has been sexually assaulted. Telling jokes about rape can bring up horrible memories for people, and you never know who you are hurting.
  • Rape is not a funny joke, it is a violent crime that happens every 2 minutes in the US. Even if you are not around anyone who has been a victim of rape or sexual assault, it is still offensive to many people to joke about such a serious matter.
  • Talking about such a heavy subject in such a funny, light way makes it seem like its no big deal. The reality of it is, it’s a REALLY big deal, and it should be treated like it is.
  • It’s just common sense that traumitizing, stealing, and forcing another human being into something is NOT funny. Is it funny when people die? No. Is it funny when someone gets kidnapped? No. Its the same kind of thing. Should people think its funny when someone is raped, or someone tells a joke about being raped? No.
  • Making jokes about rape and how the person “wanted it” or “deserved it”, is fucked up. Not to mention it can make people who are victims of sexual assault feel like it was their fault.

I know when people say things like this, they are kidding. But in my opinion, it is not funny. Rape is a serious, sad problem. Please have some consideration and respect, don’t joke around about things like this! What do you think about Rape jokes? Comment below and let me know!

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Offensive words that most people DON’T KNOW are offensive!

1. “Albino”- Albinism is the defect of melanin production that results in little or no color pigment in the hair, eyes, and skin. Most people refer to people with albinism as “albino”, but what most people don’t know is, “albino” is an offensive term, it is like seperating people with albinism from people who have pigment in their skin, hair, and eyes. It’s just like how its better to say a person has a disability, rather than they are disabled, because they are still a person, just like the rest of us, and they should not be categorized differently. It’s the same type of thing with Albinism!

2. “Hermaphridite”- Or intersex. According to the intersex society of Utah, “Intersex” is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male. For example, a person might be born appearing to be female on the outside, but having mostly male-typical anatomy on the inside. Or a person may be born with genitals that seem to be in-between the usual male and female types—for example, a girl may be born with a noticeably large clitoris, or lacking a vaginal opening, or a boy may be born with a notably small penis, or with a scrotum that is divided so that it has formed more like labia. Or a person may be born with mosaic genetics, so that some of her cells have XX chromosomes and some of them have XY. Many people refer to intersex people as “hermaphridites”. That is an offensive term, and intersex is the correct term.

3. “Hobo” – This one is a bit more obvious, but you would be shocked at how many teens I hear referring to homeless folks as “hobos” and saying things like, “I gave this hobo a dollar the other day”. To me, it is kind of like seperating homeless people from people who are not homeless, and putting them in another category. It is perpetuating classism! If you are even going to acknowledge the fact that someone does not have a home, just use the term “homeless”

I hope this was helpful! These are some things most people don’t realize are offensive, but they are! Educate your friends, let people know! Thanks (:

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“Love shouldn’t hurt”

As most of you probably know, today is Valentines Day. Valentines day is a day to celebrate love and the happy aspects of it, but what I want to talk about is the ugly parts of love, such as abuse. Abuse can happen in all kinds of relationships. One in three teens report being in an abusive relationship at some point. Abuse only gets worse, so I want to educate you about different kinds of abuse, and signs of an abusive relationship. First, I want to let you know that there are four main kinds of abuse.

  • Physical-kicking, punching, hitting, shoving, biting, slapping, ect.
  • Emotional-Controlling and Manipulating.
  • Verbal– Name calling, put-downs, and threats.
  • Sexual– Forcing sex, manipulating, using threats to make someone give in to pressure to do something sexual.

Usually, the relationship doesn’t start out abusive. It gradually gets worse and worse. These are some warning signs that the relationship is unhealthy, and could become abusive.

  • Extreme jealousy/getting possessive
  • Controlling/demanding
  • Gets angry quickly and easily
  • Pressures you to do something sexual
  • Embarrasses/Humiliates you
  • Blames you whenever they are sad, mad, ect
  • You feel trapped in the relationship
  • Uses threats

If you have expierienced any of these, your relationship could be unhealthy! The best thing to do is break up with the person (if you feel safe to) or tell a trusted adult!

You are in an abusive relationship if your partner:

  • Hits, kicks, bites, shoves, or hurts you physically in any way
  • Forces you to have sex or do something sexual
  • Puts you down and embarrasses you
  • Threatens, manipulates, or controls you

These are not the ONLY signs of abuse. Just know that you have the right to:

  • Be in a happy, healthy relationship
  • Speak your mind
  • Dress the way you want
  • Hangout with who you want
  • Make decisions around sex for yourself
  • Love yourself
  • Be treated equally
  • Change your mind
  • Live your life without fear
  • Be loved

If you are not being treated the way you deserve to be, get out of the relationship! Your not alone! If you need help, or you know someone that needs help, go to:

It is important to let someone know what is going on! Abuse is not okay and the victim is never to blame! Speak out against abuse and violence!