Control a woman remote

When I saw this, I was outraged. I don’t know if this is serious, or a joke, but either way I find it extremely sexist, misogynist, and offensive. It suggests that men should be able to control women, which is just straight up sexist. It reinforces the stereotype that women are in a bad mood when they are on their period. HELLO?! EVERYONE is in a bad mood sometimes, so whats with the “turn off” PMS button? I think that the worst are the buttons stop “whining, nagging, and moaning”. This also reinforces the stereotype that women are whiny and that we don’t have the right to assert ourselves. If we ever have a complaint, we are “whining”. I also hate the give me “beer, sex, food.” This doesn’t only make women look bad, but it makes men look bad to. It ALSO reinforces the belief that all men are sexist assholes who want control over a woman. Gender and heteronormative, much? This remote reinforces RAPE CULTURE by having the buttons “say yes, say no, give me sex.” It makes it seem as if women should adapt to mens needs when it comes to sexuality. We can make our OWN choices regarding our sexuality and our bodies. “Cook, clean, leave”. Gender roles? I think so. This whole thing is very stereotypical and sexist and i hate it!

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Happy Birthday Dr.Seuss?

As many of you may know, it was Dr. Seusses birthday on Friday! (If he was still alive)! Dr. Seuss was an AMAZING author and an inspiration in many peoples lives. On the same day, the movie The Lorax came out in theaters, based off an enviormentally friendly book by Dr. Seuss about saving the trees and in the story, the “Lorax” is a grouchy old guy, that embodies the spirit of nature, and he speaks for the trees. In a nutshell, the story is about saving the enviorment, and although it is directed towards a younger audience, it has a message that can speak to all of us. The thing about all of this is that, there is a new SUV commercial which uses the “Lorax” in it to advertise it. To me, I find it extremely offensive towards Dr. Seuss, because he isn’t here to see how contradicting it is! The SUV is NOT a hybrid, so why are they using an enviormentally friendly story to advertise a gas guzzling SUV? Here is part of the commercial:

What do you think about this? Comment below and let me know! (:

Offensive words that most people DON’T KNOW are offensive!

1. “Albino”- Albinism is the defect of melanin production that results in little or no color pigment in the hair, eyes, and skin. Most people refer to people with albinism as “albino”, but what most people don’t know is, “albino” is an offensive term, it is like seperating people with albinism from people who have pigment in their skin, hair, and eyes. It’s just like how its better to say a person has a disability, rather than they are disabled, because they are still a person, just like the rest of us, and they should not be categorized differently. It’s the same type of thing with Albinism!

2. “Hermaphridite”- Or intersex. According to the intersex society of Utah, “Intersex” is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male. For example, a person might be born appearing to be female on the outside, but having mostly male-typical anatomy on the inside. Or a person may be born with genitals that seem to be in-between the usual male and female types—for example, a girl may be born with a noticeably large clitoris, or lacking a vaginal opening, or a boy may be born with a notably small penis, or with a scrotum that is divided so that it has formed more like labia. Or a person may be born with mosaic genetics, so that some of her cells have XX chromosomes and some of them have XY. Many people refer to intersex people as “hermaphridites”. That is an offensive term, and intersex is the correct term.

3. “Hobo” – This one is a bit more obvious, but you would be shocked at how many teens I hear referring to homeless folks as “hobos” and saying things like, “I gave this hobo a dollar the other day”. To me, it is kind of like seperating homeless people from people who are not homeless, and putting them in another category. It is perpetuating classism! If you are even going to acknowledge the fact that someone does not have a home, just use the term “homeless”

I hope this was helpful! These are some things most people don’t realize are offensive, but they are! Educate your friends, let people know! Thanks (:

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Student Panel!

Today, I took part in a student panel for new teachers in the school district. Me and another girl that goes to my school participated in the panel. We arrived at around 4:50 and the panel started at 5:00. There were several new teachers that took part in it, who were shown statistics of grades based off of race, gender, and more. Next, we (the 2 students) were asked to respond to the following questions:

  • What helps you feel connected to teachers and school? Please give examples.
  • What makes it hard to feel connected to teachers and school? Please give examples.
  • What kind of expectations do your teachers have for you? How do you know?
  • How can teachers best support you and be an ally to you in relation to issues of oppression and equity, especially when they don’t share the same identities , i.e a white teacher supporting a student of color?
  • How would you like teachers to respond when someone says something offensive in class or makes a joke that reinforces negative stereotypes ( for example, makes a joke about immigration, someone’s accent, or refers to Read 180 as “Mexican English”?) What are the best responses you’ve seen from teachers?
  • What other advice would you give to teachers who want to create equitable learning environments?

The purpose of us answering these questions was to give the teacher’s a student’s prospective on these kind of issues. Some things I talked about in my responses were:

  • Some teachers expect us to have no life outside of school, and they don’t understand when we are having a rough time emotionally, and its hard to be “present” in class.
  • When teachers laugh along with offensive jokes, it makes the classroom feel like an unsafe space.
  • Teachers tend to have higher expectations for white students. Which is pretty much flat out racist.
  • When someone says something offensive, I would prefer the teacher to stop the class and directly talk about why the comment was rude or disrespectful.
  • I have had teachers call a friend of mine, who is transgender, an “it” when she identifies as female. So ignorant, rude, and unprofessional.
  • It helps when teachers are educated and informed about issues of oppression.
  • I wish teachers understood that everyone learns differently.

The panel was a really powerful expirience! I’m glad I got to get my voice heard! I will be attending another one in about 2 weeks! I’ll keep ya’ll updated! What would you respond with if you were asked these questions? Comment below and let me know (:

How to: Have an amazing personal intervention

This post is about personal interventions, meaning, if someone says something offensive, a personal intervention is meant to confront and handle the situation. For example, if someone says something racist, sexist, or offensive in any way, this might be helpful for approaching the person.

Personal Interventions

  • Be safe, time and place matters!
  • Context and relationship matters. It depends on who the person is and how close you are to them.
  • The nature of the remark is important!
  • Remember: There is no perfect thing to say.
  • You have to make a decision before responding.
  • Think about this: Who is the intervention geared towards?
  • Use variations of: “I don’t understand” or “I’m confused” instead of using harsh language.
  • Go back to your relationship- let the person know your only confronting them because they matter to you!
  • Respond to whats real, don’t go looking for offense.
  • Don’t respond by making an equally offensive remark and do not embarass the person. This will only make matters worse.
  • Take personal responsibility for your own feelings.
  • Remember your “rights” to feel comfortable around the person, and let them know if they are doing something offensive.
  • Remember where other people are coming from.

Things to remember:

  • Silence is usually interpreted as approval or support.
  • Our work is about issues, not blame. Leave peoples self-esteem intact.
  • Inaction is an action!

I hope this is helpful, and if you have any examples of personal interventions that worked/didn’t work for you, comment below or e-mail me! Thanks (: