Love yourself.. but which parts?

A lot of people say “you should love yourself” and “you should love who you are”. When people say this, are they referring to our looks, our personality, or both? When people talk about self-acceptance, I usually think about body image and confidence. However, lately I have been seeing things in a new light. Sometimes we forget to accept ALL parts of ourselves because we don’t find it as important. I hear people say things such as “I don’t hate myself, I just have a really big nose”. Saying things like this is doing the opposite of practicing radical self love. I saw this photo on the facebook page A girls guide to taking over the world, and it got me thinking.

This photo emphasizes accepting and appreciating ALL parts of our bodies! Parts of my bodies I never even thought about! But they DO deserve the same acceptance and appreciation.

I also came across this Laci Green video about boobs:

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Laci talks about how our media has a warped perception about how boobs should look. There to big, there to small. To saggy, to perky. There not the right color. Our nipples are to big or to small, etc. The porn industry specifically as a set idea of how boobs are supposed to look. All boobs are different! This is something I never even thought about, but that part us female-bodied people is just as important to accept!

I also came across this photo on the page, The body is not an apology.

This photo is about accepting your Labia! (If you have one)!

These are things I have never even put much thought into, although I have felt self-concious about these parts of my body, it never seemed to matter.

I am realizing that it DOES matter and there isn’t one right way for our bodies to look!

What do you think? Comment below and let me know!

 

The problem with skinny bashing

Many of you may have hard of fat shaming, making someone feel ugly, unaccomplished, stupid, lazy, or bad because of their weight. Fat shaming is perpetuating the idea that it is your fault if you are bigger, and it invalidates your accomplishments. I have always been against fat shaming, and I thought it was interesting when I came across an article about “skinny bashing”. Although its great to see that our culture is slowly becoming more accepting towards more full-figured body types, it is NOT good to see skinnier body types being put down. Since our media portrays slim folks as more attractive, worthy,etc, some people have gone as far as to flip this stereotype, and try to make skinny people feel unattractive or unworthy. This totally defeats the purpose of body acceptance and just makes it okay for people to judge eachothers bodies. I have seen this photo all over social networking sites, and I found this photo on google images:

At first I liked this picture, but now I am putting some more thought into it. This photo glorifies one body type to put down another. It is nice to see curvier women being portrayed as attractive, but the skinnier woman is being put down! We don’t know their health. We don’t know who eats the healthiest by looking at them, and we can’t determine that the woman on the right is unhealthy just because she is thin! Instead of putting down a certain kind of body type to validate another, we should be more accepting of ALL bodies.

What do you think about this? Comment below and let me know!

Bad Picture Monday

On the page “The body is not apology”, we do bad picture Monday. Bad picture Monday is every Monday! The purpose of it is to post a photo of yourself that you find unflattering or unattractive. That might seem a bit strange.Why would you post a photo of yourself that you DON’T like? Because,

The purpose is to love ourselves and our bodies unconditionally, no matter what. That INCLUDES “bad” pictures, because it encourages us to remember that we have nothing to apologize for or be ashamed of. The point is to practice radical self love !

I LOVE bad picture Monday now! Here are some Bad Picture Monday Photos:

 

Yeahahha!! What do you think about Bad Picture Monday? Comment below and let me know!

Four African men school you on hollywood stereotypes

Today I was browsin’ around town on the internet world. I came across this sweet video on Colorlines. It is about stereotypes seen in the media about African men. I thought it was really interesting, so here it is!! BOOM!!

 

What do you think about this? Comment below and let me know!

The Hunger Games: No gender roles!

As you might know, the movie “The Hunger Games” came out recently. It’s based off of the book.When the book opens, North America as we know it has been destroyed and is now divided into 12 districts, ruled by an oppressive government located at the Capital. Katniss Everdeen, a 16-year-old girl from District 12, takes her younger sister’s place as one of 24 “tributes” selected every year to participate in the Hunger Games at the Capitol.The Games pit children from ages 12 to 18 against each other in a fight to the death in a giant, treacherous arena. Everything is televised and highly publicized all over the country. Katniss must not only survive the Games, but deal with a romance between her and another tribute from District 12, all the while deciding if she is willing to kill strangers her own age as a pawn of an oppressive government.(Read more: http://www.seattlepi.com/lifestyle/blogcritics/article/Book-Review-The-Hunger-Games-by-Suzanne-Collins-900110.php#ixzz1qzWHwtOi). I saw this movie and something I liked about it is that unlike the majority of the media, this movie did not have strong gender roles. Here is why this movie is different than most:

  • Katniss is the protaginist. She hunts to keep her family fed, she can shoot a bow and arrow well,and she can set traps. She is skilled, and in most movies and books, traits like these would automatically be handed to a male character.
  • There are no body image issues in the book or movie.
  • There is no sexualization of ANY of the characters.
  • Katniss’s strengths are based off of personality, not gender.

I could go on, but I think you get the idea. What do you think about the Hunger Games? Do you agree? Disagree? Comment below and let me know!

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Photo from Google Images!

Subliminal Messaging

Hey ya’ll! I just want to say, I’m sorry I haven’t posted in a while, I have been busy! Plus having some girl troubles. Yesterday, I watched this video that I found very interesting, so I thought I would share it with you:

What do you think? What subliminal messages have YOU noticed in the media? Comment below and let me know!

Secrets Kony 2012 is desperate to hide

This video is shocking. So many people are pro Kony 2012 without realizing what they are REALLY supporting! Check out this video:

After watching this video, what do you think about Kony 2012? Comment below and let me know!

“Sluts”

This is the quote of the day! It is by Elissa Sursara:

“If someone calls you a slut, there’s nothing you can say to refute the claim because it never had any cognitive content anyway. Even virginity is not a defense against alleged sluttiness. Virgins can be sluts if they dress the wrong way, walk the wrong way, or even instill the wrong thoughts in other people. Some people will convict you of sluttitude because your body is the wrong shape, or the right shape. What determines sluttiness? Is it number of partners, or the number of sex acts, or the kind of sex, or whether you enjoy it, or what other people infer about your self-esteem based on what they assume about your sex life? It’s all of the above, or none of the above. Either way, you lose. Maybe it has nothing to do with you at all. Maybe it’s because your accuser is racist or classist and your “sluttiness” is built into some stereotype that was clanking around in their head before they ever met you. If you try to argue that you’re not a slut, you’re implicitly buying into the idea that there are sluts out there. If there’s some criterion that will set you free, that standard will indict someone else—someone with a higher “number,” or shorter skirt, or a later curfew. So we get bogged down in slut/non-slut border skirmishes over a line nobody should have tried to draw in the first place, and we all lose. The only “refutation” is to laugh in your accuser’s face and get on with your life, however you choose to live it.”

I LOVE this quote. What do you think about it? Comment below and let me know! (:

Spoken Word!

I have written about spoken word before, but in this post, I would like to share with ya’ll some of my personal favorite spoken word artists! I think spoken word is so powerful, amazing, and empowering!

I absolutly LOVE Thick Chicks by Tamara Blue! I watch it every time I’m having a hard time with my self-esteem! It’s a great reminder that being skinny isn’t the only way to be beautiful!

Bridget Gray is absolutley AMAZING! This always reminds me of the sexism and misogny that is ingrained in our culture and music. This is such a beautiful, powerful piece.

I LOVE this!

Spoken word is a way of expression and acceptance. Spoken word isn’t only about feminism and women’s issues, there is Spoken word about all sorts of things, usually involving social or political issues! I hope you liked this! Comment below and let me know who your favrorite spoken word artist is! (: