Facebook is gender and hetero-normative..

Today I was reading the article “Choose One” and it really got me thinking. On facebook, as well as almost all other social networking sites, assumptions are mad regarding sexuality and gender. The only options that you can be “interested in” are male and female. You can pick one, or both. What about neither? What about ALL genders? The gender options are limited to female and male, and you HAVE to select one. As Max Wilcox says, “I see no need for Facebook to know what is in my pants, but that’s what they ask everyone that signs up.” The world around us is increasingly accepting of a spectrum of sexual orientations and gender identities, but Facebook is still sticking to outdated, problematic paradigms (Rutherford.) Its not only facebook, but applications, tests, and almost anything else you have to fill out. It has always made me uncomfortable seeing the two boxes, and having to choose one. I always wonder, why does it even matter? Why do they want to know? I know people who have restrained from getting ID’s and Driver’s licenses because of the gender factor they face when they do so. For some people, this issue might not affect them at all, but for others it is very emotionally stressful. It is just a reminder of how hetero and gender normative the majority of our society is, disregarding all other identities. I think this is something EVERYONE should care about. Just because you are cisgender and it doesn’t matter to you, this problem affects thousands of others on a daily basis. There is a quote on the Geurilla Feminism page that I think relates to this. “I support safe spaces. Because America is already a safe space for white, cisgender, middle class, heterosexual males, and I don’t fit under all those catergories. Because we may have a black president, but we are not post racism. Because you may have a Gay best friend, we are not post-Homophobia. Because everyone may be created equal, but that doesn’t mean everyone is treated equally. Because privilege exists. Ignoring the  fact makes you part of the problem, not part of the solution.” This is a reminder that being an ally isn’t about comparing your oppression with my oppression, its not about comparing who has it harder. Just because you have been opressed, that doesn’t make you any less responsible for the  marginalization of others. We need to work together, because being an ally is about caring about the issues that affect us, and the ones that don’t, to. What do you think about this? Have you ever thought about gender and sexuality regarding social networking sites? Comment below and let me know!

If only the options could be like this:

Photo from facebook!

Thanks for reading! (:

Control a woman remote

When I saw this, I was outraged. I don’t know if this is serious, or a joke, but either way I find it extremely sexist, misogynist, and offensive. It suggests that men should be able to control women, which is just straight up sexist. It reinforces the stereotype that women are in a bad mood when they are on their period. HELLO?! EVERYONE is in a bad mood sometimes, so whats with the “turn off” PMS button? I think that the worst are the buttons stop “whining, nagging, and moaning”. This also reinforces the stereotype that women are whiny and that we don’t have the right to assert ourselves. If we ever have a complaint, we are “whining”. I also hate the give me “beer, sex, food.” This doesn’t only make women look bad, but it makes men look bad to. It ALSO reinforces the belief that all men are sexist assholes who want control over a woman. Gender and heteronormative, much? This remote reinforces RAPE CULTURE by having the buttons “say yes, say no, give me sex.” It makes it seem as if women should adapt to mens needs when it comes to sexuality. We can make our OWN choices regarding our sexuality and our bodies. “Cook, clean, leave”. Gender roles? I think so. This whole thing is very stereotypical and sexist and i hate it!

Photo from Google Images!

What do you think about this? Comment below and let me know!

Fox news GENDER PROPOGANDA

This photo from FOX news really upsets me.

If you find this interesting, see more about topics like these here. Fox news reinforced gender roles by

  • Suggesting that there are only 2 genders
  • Associating Spa days with girls and video games with boys.

Fox news sucks, just like most news stations in the US. What do you think about this??? Comment below and let me know!!

The Hunger Games: No gender roles!

As you might know, the movie “The Hunger Games” came out recently. It’s based off of the book.When the book opens, North America as we know it has been destroyed and is now divided into 12 districts, ruled by an oppressive government located at the Capital. Katniss Everdeen, a 16-year-old girl from District 12, takes her younger sister’s place as one of 24 “tributes” selected every year to participate in the Hunger Games at the Capitol.The Games pit children from ages 12 to 18 against each other in a fight to the death in a giant, treacherous arena. Everything is televised and highly publicized all over the country. Katniss must not only survive the Games, but deal with a romance between her and another tribute from District 12, all the while deciding if she is willing to kill strangers her own age as a pawn of an oppressive government.(Read more: http://www.seattlepi.com/lifestyle/blogcritics/article/Book-Review-The-Hunger-Games-by-Suzanne-Collins-900110.php#ixzz1qzWHwtOi). I saw this movie and something I liked about it is that unlike the majority of the media, this movie did not have strong gender roles. Here is why this movie is different than most:

  • Katniss is the protaginist. She hunts to keep her family fed, she can shoot a bow and arrow well,and she can set traps. She is skilled, and in most movies and books, traits like these would automatically be handed to a male character.
  • There are no body image issues in the book or movie.
  • There is no sexualization of ANY of the characters.
  • Katniss’s strengths are based off of personality, not gender.

I could go on, but I think you get the idea. What do you think about the Hunger Games? Do you agree? Disagree? Comment below and let me know!

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Photo from Google Images!

One of my favorite quotes!

““Swear to god, I can’t stand to hear a woman claim that she thinks like a guy and hates women because they’re all catty. That’s misogyny. The fact that you, as a woman, think differently than how a socially-stereotyped woman is supposed to think is proof that our gender “norms” are fucking us over. Women are not all alike. Some of us like football. Some of us like talking on the phone. Some of us like religion. Some of us are emotional. Some of us speak three languages. Some of us have boyfriends. Some of us have girlfriends. Some of us wear lipstick. Some of us don’t shave our pits. Some of us have kids. Some of us worry we’ll drop our best friend’s baby. Now please stop claiming that you don’t act like a woman. It doesn’t make you a special fucking snowflake. It makes you a perpetrator of misogyny.”

I’m not sure who this quote is by, but I love it!

Photo from Google Images (:

Offensive words that most people DON’T KNOW are offensive!

1. “Albino”- Albinism is the defect of melanin production that results in little or no color pigment in the hair, eyes, and skin. Most people refer to people with albinism as “albino”, but what most people don’t know is, “albino” is an offensive term, it is like seperating people with albinism from people who have pigment in their skin, hair, and eyes. It’s just like how its better to say a person has a disability, rather than they are disabled, because they are still a person, just like the rest of us, and they should not be categorized differently. It’s the same type of thing with Albinism!

2. “Hermaphridite”- Or intersex. According to the intersex society of Utah, “Intersex” is a general term used for a variety of conditions in which a person is born with a reproductive or sexual anatomy that doesn’t seem to fit the typical definitions of female or male. For example, a person might be born appearing to be female on the outside, but having mostly male-typical anatomy on the inside. Or a person may be born with genitals that seem to be in-between the usual male and female types—for example, a girl may be born with a noticeably large clitoris, or lacking a vaginal opening, or a boy may be born with a notably small penis, or with a scrotum that is divided so that it has formed more like labia. Or a person may be born with mosaic genetics, so that some of her cells have XX chromosomes and some of them have XY. Many people refer to intersex people as “hermaphridites”. That is an offensive term, and intersex is the correct term.

3. “Hobo” – This one is a bit more obvious, but you would be shocked at how many teens I hear referring to homeless folks as “hobos” and saying things like, “I gave this hobo a dollar the other day”. To me, it is kind of like seperating homeless people from people who are not homeless, and putting them in another category. It is perpetuating classism! If you are even going to acknowledge the fact that someone does not have a home, just use the term “homeless”

I hope this was helpful! These are some things most people don’t realize are offensive, but they are! Educate your friends, let people know! Thanks (:

Photo from Google Images (:

Quote of the Day!!

‎”It is so hard to figure yourself out when everything is compounded by outside influences..even genuine gender identity mismatch wouldn’t be as big of an issue if their weren’t so many social constructs of what each gender should personify.” – T.Randall

This quote isn’t by anyone famous, but it is by a friend of mine. Do you agree with her? Disagree? What are your views on this? Comment below and let me know what you think (:

      Photo from: Google 

How to use GENDER NEUTRAL pronouns~

Something i talked about in an earlier post titled “education about identities” is being gender neutral. There are people who do not identify as male or female. They identify as gender neutral. The pronouns for people who do not identify as any particular gender are ze and hir or they and them. Of course, this doesn’t apply for everyone who doesn’t identify with one gender or another, but many people do use there pronouns. I want to talk about how to use them, because some people aren’t sure how to. This is how they are used:

  • Hir jacket is right here. (Hir replaces him or her)
  • Where is ze? (Ze replaces he she)
  • Where are they? (Once again, they replaces him or her)
  • I’m going with them to the movie (Them replaces her or him)

I hope this gives a general idea of how to use gender neutral pronouns! If anyone has any expirience with gender neutral pronouns, comment below and let me know! Thanks (: