“Consent is hot, assault is not”

I thought I would write this article because many people don’t seem to understand sexual consent, and just consent in general. People tend to assume that just because someone isn’t saying no, it means that they are saying yes. It can be akward and a little weird at first to ask your partner for consent, but is important, and it should take place every time. Here are some ideas of things to say/ask before taking part in sexual activity:

  • I’d like to talk about this first.
  • What’s your favorite safe word?
  • What positions do you like?
  • Are you okay with this?
  • What turns you on?
  • Do you like it when I…?
  • If you change your mind, I’ll stop.
  • I liked that last time.. now I’m not in the mood.
  • Do you have any trigger points?
  • If you’re into that I could..
  • May I?

It is important to keep in mind that any individual can change their mind at any time during sexual activity. They should never feel pressured or forced in any way. Make sure the person you are with is comfortable and ready!

If you are interested in learning more about sexual consent, check out Fuck Yeah Consent.

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What do you think? What are your experiences with consent? Comment below and let me know!


Top 5 reasons to masturbate

Why am I posting about this? Because it’s considered taboo, and I don’t understand why there should be any shame or guilt around masturbation. It is completely natural and healthy. Here is why:

1. Its relieving- Masturbation is actually a great way to relieve stress and focus on one thing!

2. It can help with Insomnia!- After masturbation, blood pressure is lower and you will feel more relaxed because of the endorphins that are released!

3. It’s good for your health!- Orgasming leads to an increase in blood flow, and it increases your muscles in that area!

4. There is nothing wrong with feeling good! – Thats pretty self explanitory, but whats wrong with feeling good?!

5. You begin to know your body!- When you explore your body, you know it better than you used to! How is somebody else supposed to touch you down there if your not comfortable touching yourself?

Of course, there is nothing wrong with making the decision  NOT to masturbate. Some may feel no desire to, as well as asexual folks. However, people who DO choose to masturbate should not be put down or shunned for it! It is healthy and natural to many of us!

What do you think about masturbation? Do you think its healthy? Comment below and let me know!

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