Love yourself.. but which parts?

A lot of people say “you should love yourself” and “you should love who you are”. When people say this, are they referring to our looks, our personality, or both? When people talk about self-acceptance, I usually think about body image and confidence. However, lately I have been seeing things in a new light. Sometimes we forget to accept ALL parts of ourselves because we don’t find it as important. I hear people say things such as “I don’t hate myself, I just have a really big nose”. Saying things like this is doing the opposite of practicing radical self love. I saw this photo on the facebook page A girls guide to taking over the world, and it got me thinking.

This photo emphasizes accepting and appreciating ALL parts of our bodies! Parts of my bodies I never even thought about! But they DO deserve the same acceptance and appreciation.

I also came across this Laci Green video about boobs:


Laci talks about how our media has a warped perception about how boobs should look. There to big, there to small. To saggy, to perky. There not the right color. Our nipples are to big or to small, etc. The porn industry specifically as a set idea of how boobs are supposed to look. All boobs are different! This is something I never even thought about, but that part us female-bodied people is just as important to accept!

I also came across this photo on the page, The body is not an apology.

This photo is about accepting your Labia! (If you have one)!

These are things I have never even put much thought into, although I have felt self-concious about these parts of my body, it never seemed to matter.

I am realizing that it DOES matter and there isn’t one right way for our bodies to look!

What do you think? Comment below and let me know!



Is Facebook responsible for body issues?

Today I was reading an article on Jezebel  titled “Blame Facebook Photo Tagging For Your Weird Body Issues.” According to a recent study, photo tagging over facebook can make us develop insecurities about our bodies due to spending excessive time online. Facebook doesn’t only make people more conscious of their bodies, and every “flaw” they can find, but it also can make folks feel as if they MUST be in a photo every time they attend a social event. Almost half of the people who took the survey claimed that they feel pressured to be “camera ready” when going out to a party or social gathering. More than half of the people who took the survey reported that their friends facebook posts and photos make them jealous! I never really thought about it, but for some people, facebook gets competitive! Instead of using it as a way to keep up with friends and share, it has become a competition, to get the most “likes” on your photo or status. Dr. Harry Brandt, director for The Center for Eating Disorders at Sheppard Pratt, says: “Facebook is making it easier for people to spend more time and energy criticizing their own bodies and wishing they looked like someone else. In this age of modern technology and constant access to SmartPhones and the internet, it’s becoming increasingly difficult for people to remove themselves from images and other triggers that promote negative body image, low self-esteem and may ultimately contribute to eating disorders.” I find this very interesting, and somewhat true! I have found myself looking through someones photos on a social networking site, wishing I could look like them. What do you think about this? Do you agree? Comment below and let me know!

Photo from google images!

Valeria Lukyanova: Russian 21 year old uses Plastic Surgery and Cosmetics to look like a Barbie

This past weekend, I was searching the web, and I came across something very strange. 21 year old Valeria Lukyanova, a famous Russian model, has gone through various surgeries and cosmetic treatments to look EXACTLY like a barbie doll. Her proportions are so unrealistic it is almost impossible to believe she is a real person. Here are some pictures of Valeria:

Photos from Google Images!

To me, this is disturbing. Why would someone take such extreme measures as to want to look EXACTLY like barbie? I think it is a reflection of the poor ideas of beauty portrayed in the media and the negative body image perpetuated through almost all media and institutional reinforcement. It’s sad that people are so unhappy with themselves they feel the need to do something like this. What do you think about it? Comment below and let me know!

Billabong makes a positive change!

In February, a petition was signed for Bo Stanley, to show that she deserves respect “based on her surfing and not her bikini size”. According to the petition, “Bo does not fit the Billabong bikini and clothing sample size 3, Bo does not receive the same amount of opportunity or support from Billabong. When it comes to modeling on their website or catalog Bo has been told that they think she is beautiful but unless she fits a size 3 she wont be featured.” The petition changed this, and now Bo has her own gallery! It is great that more companies are starting to recognize that the majority of women ARE bigger than a size 3, and there is nothing wrong with that! I think that when companies only use models who are unrealistically thin, it reinforces negative body images. It also manipulates the audience into buying more, because it makes us feel as if we need to “fix” ourselves. That we need to buy more and buy more to make ourselves look better. We are not broken, we do not need to be fixed. Although fashion is not a huge focus of mine, I do think it is positive to see this brand opening up to an averaged sized girl, showing  a more accurate representation of your average teen. I think Bo is talented and beautiful!

Photo from Google Images! Comment below and let me know what you think about this! Thanks for reading! (:


This is strike 3, Kate Upton!

Many of you may have seen the video I posted a while back about Kate Upton and how she appeared on a ridiculous Carls Junior commercial, in which she was objectified to sell the food.

Next, she appeared in ANOTHER commercial! This time, its  DIRECTTV commercial, and in this one, she is sexualized and objectified as well. To me, this one is even worse than the first one!

What is this? Really? Using a woman’s body to make money on Tv? I think this is horrible.

But then, Kate Upton strikes AGAIN! This time, the truth is revealed that a photo of her featured in Sports Illustrated was photoshopped! Read the whole article here.

I understand Kate Upton is doing this for money, but I don’t get why someone would objectify themself in this way! Its not as much her fault as it in the advertising industry. It sends such unhealthy messages to people of all ages who watch Tv. What do you think about this? Comment below and let me know!


A Fat Rant

This video really inspires me! Joy nash is someone I really look up to because she shows that she has NOTHING to apologize for. She is funny, goregous, and smart! Check out her video!

If you liked this video, you might want to check out this  facebook page : The body is not an apology! You also might like Adios Barbie ! Check it out and let me know what you think!

The reason I like sites and pages like these is because they promote healthy eating, positive body image, and exercise. Pages and sites like these show that you don’t have to be thin to be healthy, and they encourage you to feel confident just the way you are.

Do you agree? Disagree? Comment below and let me know what you think!

Top 5 reasons not to shop at Abercrombie and Fitch

Abercrombie and Fitch is an overpriced clothing store catering to teens and young adults. This is why you should NOT shop there:

  • Usually, when you walk into the store, there is a young man with muscles standing at the door, usually shirtless. If there isn’t, there are always photos of men with unrealistic muscles, and unrealistically skinny and unproportional women on the walls. Not to mention, they are primarily white. This reinforces gender roles, and NEGATIVE body image!
  • Its overpriced! Some basic T-shirts there cost $40 and over! Why spend so much money on a label!?! I have bought similar T-shirts at the consignment store for about $7. Just saying.
  • In 2005, the store was sued for discrimination based on race. Most people who get hired at the store happen to be tan, blonde, and skinny. Coincidence? I think not. According to Jennifer Lu, “”It’s dominated by Caucasian, football-looking, blonde-hair, blue-eyed males; skinny, tall”. “You don’t see any African-Americans, Asian-Americans, and that’s the image that they’re portraying and that they’re looking for.”
  • Abercrombie was also sued for religious discrimination!According to Sarah Letter, a young muslim was told in an interview that she couldn’t work at the store because her head scarf (a hijab) didn’t follow the “dress policy”.
  • A young woman named Riam Dean sued the store for their discrimination against her disability. Although she did get a job there, she was hid in a storage room because her prosthetic arm didn’t “fit” the look. According to Riam, “I had been bullied out of my job,” she said. “It was the lowest point I had ever been in my life.”

I could go on, but you get my point. This store is discriminatory and awful! What do you think? Comment below and let me know!

Because looking like that is just so realistic? Ugh. (Photo from Google Images)


Two weeks in!

I haven’t shaved my armpits for 2 weeks, and this is the progress so far:

I will post in another 2 weeks with another updated picture! What do you think about growing out body hair? Do you think that the idea that women should have to shave off their body hair is simply a social construct? Comment below and let me know! (:

Have you ever noticed..?

In many fashion magazines for young women such as “seventeen” and “vogue” there are tips about body acceptance. Does anyone else find it a bit contradicting that in the same magazines, dieting and exercising is promoted as well? Yes, it is always a plus to be healthy, but dieting keeps your body from receiving the proper nutrience it needs. Also, when all the featured women in the magazine are stick-skinny, it isn’t exactly encouraging. In seventeen, I have seen it several times. There will be an article about accepting and loving yourself and your body, but the clothes for “full-figured” girls are far less revealing or tight. How does that help bigger girls accept themselves? Covering up your body rather than highlighting your fat thighs or round tummy isn’t going to help you feel confident. It is almost making the assumption that larger girls don’t feel comfortable in tight clothing, and don’t advertise it towards them. Images like the one below are targetted towards extremly skinny girls. These types of bathing suits are rarely, if ever, shown on an average -sized girl. Images from Google Images(:

These kind of bathing suits are targetted towards “bigger” girls.

What do you think about this? Do you agree? Disagree? Comment below and let me know what you think(: