One of the hugest misconceptions about sex..

I love this video (and Laci Green)! It is informative, educational, and entertaining. Most people I know have the misconception that female-bodied people must “pop” their cherries. However, the hymen is NOT a thin layer of skin covering the vagina, as people think. The hymen simply stretches, it does not pop or break. Re-educate yourself with Laci Green! She makes videos about sex, sexuality, relationships, and more! I hope this was informative!

What do you think? Comment below and let me know!

Photo of Laci from google images!

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Facebook is gender and hetero-normative..

Today I was reading the article “Choose One” and it really got me thinking. On facebook, as well as almost all other social networking sites, assumptions are mad regarding sexuality and gender. The only options that you can be “interested in” are male and female. You can pick one, or both. What about neither? What about ALL genders? The gender options are limited to female and male, and you HAVE to select one. As Max Wilcox says, “I see no need for Facebook to know what is in my pants, but that’s what they ask everyone that signs up.” The world around us is increasingly accepting of a spectrum of sexual orientations and gender identities, but Facebook is still sticking to outdated, problematic paradigms (Rutherford.) Its not only facebook, but applications, tests, and almost anything else you have to fill out. It has always made me uncomfortable seeing the two boxes, and having to choose one. I always wonder, why does it even matter? Why do they want to know? I know people who have restrained from getting ID’s and Driver’s licenses because of the gender factor they face when they do so. For some people, this issue might not affect them at all, but for others it is very emotionally stressful. It is just a reminder of how hetero and gender normative the majority of our society is, disregarding all other identities. I think this is something EVERYONE should care about. Just because you are cisgender and it doesn’t matter to you, this problem affects thousands of others on a daily basis. There is a quote on the Geurilla Feminism page that I think relates to this. “I support safe spaces. Because America is already a safe space for white, cisgender, middle class, heterosexual males, and I don’t fit under all those catergories. Because we may have a black president, but we are not post racism. Because you may have a Gay best friend, we are not post-Homophobia. Because everyone may be created equal, but that doesn’t mean everyone is treated equally. Because privilege exists. Ignoring the  fact makes you part of the problem, not part of the solution.” This is a reminder that being an ally isn’t about comparing your oppression with my oppression, its not about comparing who has it harder. Just because you have been opressed, that doesn’t make you any less responsible for the  marginalization of others. We need to work together, because being an ally is about caring about the issues that affect us, and the ones that don’t, to. What do you think about this? Have you ever thought about gender and sexuality regarding social networking sites? Comment below and let me know!

If only the options could be like this:

Photo from facebook!

Thanks for reading! (:

Children and Advertising

Today, I was reading an article titled “Sex, children, and advertising”.  It got me thinking about the way young people are sexualized in advertisements to get adults attention. In this specific Roger David ad, a young girl is used to attract middle aged men who shop at Roger David. This young girl is made “silent” in this image, which isn’t uncommon in these type of ads. She is not a woman, she is a child, and she should not be passive or forced to be silent. It is meant to look “edgy and dark”, with the suggestion of sexual attraction to a young child. Creepy much?

Photo from Roger Davids!

As a society, we have normalized seeing sexualized images everywhere. But is this okay? It may sound extreme, but in a way, these images are pedophilia. We need to protect our children instead of exploiting them. Visit collectiveshout to join their campaign for protecting women and stopping this kind of objectification!

What do you think about this? Comment below and let me know!

Control a woman remote

When I saw this, I was outraged. I don’t know if this is serious, or a joke, but either way I find it extremely sexist, misogynist, and offensive. It suggests that men should be able to control women, which is just straight up sexist. It reinforces the stereotype that women are in a bad mood when they are on their period. HELLO?! EVERYONE is in a bad mood sometimes, so whats with the “turn off” PMS button? I think that the worst are the buttons stop “whining, nagging, and moaning”. This also reinforces the stereotype that women are whiny and that we don’t have the right to assert ourselves. If we ever have a complaint, we are “whining”. I also hate the give me “beer, sex, food.” This doesn’t only make women look bad, but it makes men look bad to. It ALSO reinforces the belief that all men are sexist assholes who want control over a woman. Gender and heteronormative, much? This remote reinforces RAPE CULTURE by having the buttons “say yes, say no, give me sex.” It makes it seem as if women should adapt to mens needs when it comes to sexuality. We can make our OWN choices regarding our sexuality and our bodies. “Cook, clean, leave”. Gender roles? I think so. This whole thing is very stereotypical and sexist and i hate it!

Photo from Google Images!

What do you think about this? Comment below and let me know!

Fox news GENDER PROPOGANDA

This photo from FOX news really upsets me.

If you find this interesting, see more about topics like these here. Fox news reinforced gender roles by

  • Suggesting that there are only 2 genders
  • Associating Spa days with girls and video games with boys.

Fox news sucks, just like most news stations in the US. What do you think about this??? Comment below and let me know!!

This is strike 3, Kate Upton!

Many of you may have seen the video I posted a while back about Kate Upton and how she appeared on a ridiculous Carls Junior commercial, in which she was objectified to sell the food.

Next, she appeared in ANOTHER commercial! This time, its  DIRECTTV commercial, and in this one, she is sexualized and objectified as well. To me, this one is even worse than the first one!

What is this? Really? Using a woman’s body to make money on Tv? I think this is horrible.

But then, Kate Upton strikes AGAIN! This time, the truth is revealed that a photo of her featured in Sports Illustrated was photoshopped! Read the whole article here.

I understand Kate Upton is doing this for money, but I don’t get why someone would objectify themself in this way! Its not as much her fault as it in the advertising industry. It sends such unhealthy messages to people of all ages who watch Tv. What do you think about this? Comment below and let me know!

 

Why I’m Pro-Choice

I am personally pro-choice, meaning I believe in the choice of weather or not to get an abortion. I believe that no one should be FORCED to bare an unwanted child, and it is a personal decision. I was recently called ignorant for my views on this topic, so I want to explain why I am pro-choice.

  • I’m pro-choice because I see a different between a blastocyst and a baby.
  • I’m pro-choice because if we do not have the ability to say no, than we don’t have the ability to say yes.
  • I’m pro-choice because no one should be forced into parenthood.
  • I’m pro-choice because the decision weather or not to concieve a child is a personal decision between the person who is pregnant, and the person who got them pregnant.
  • I’m pro-choice because I believe that its my body, and my choice. The goverment shouldn’t go medaling in our personal lives, telling us what we can and can’t do.
  • I’m pro-choice because I believe all people are capable of making their own decisions.
  • I’m pro-choice because if abortion is illegal, many women turn to illegal ways of abortion which are extremlely dangerous.
  • I’m pro-choice because when a child is “forced”, there is no choice.
  • I’m pro-choice because I believe people should be able to choose how big or small they wish their family to be.
  • I’m pro-choice because I think it is irrelevant weather you personally would get an abortion or not, what others do is no one else’s buisness.
  • I am pro-choice because being pro-life reinforced misognynist beliefs and supports a patriarchal society.
  • I am pro-choice because I know that not everyone is ready for a child.

Are you pro-choice or pro-life? Comment below and let me know!

Photos from Tumblr!

Top 5 reasons not to shop at Abercrombie and Fitch

Abercrombie and Fitch is an overpriced clothing store catering to teens and young adults. This is why you should NOT shop there:

  • Usually, when you walk into the store, there is a young man with muscles standing at the door, usually shirtless. If there isn’t, there are always photos of men with unrealistic muscles, and unrealistically skinny and unproportional women on the walls. Not to mention, they are primarily white. This reinforces gender roles, and NEGATIVE body image!
  • Its overpriced! Some basic T-shirts there cost $40 and over! Why spend so much money on a label!?! I have bought similar T-shirts at the consignment store for about $7. Just saying.
  • In 2005, the store was sued for discrimination based on race. Most people who get hired at the store happen to be tan, blonde, and skinny. Coincidence? I think not. According to Jennifer Lu, “”It’s dominated by Caucasian, football-looking, blonde-hair, blue-eyed males; skinny, tall”. “You don’t see any African-Americans, Asian-Americans, and that’s the image that they’re portraying and that they’re looking for.”
  • Abercrombie was also sued for religious discrimination!According to Sarah Letter, a young muslim was told in an interview that she couldn’t work at the store because her head scarf (a hijab) didn’t follow the “dress policy”.
  • A young woman named Riam Dean sued the store for their discrimination against her disability. Although she did get a job there, she was hid in a storage room because her prosthetic arm didn’t “fit” the look. According to Riam, “I had been bullied out of my job,” she said. “It was the lowest point I had ever been in my life.”

I could go on, but you get my point. This store is discriminatory and awful! What do you think? Comment below and let me know!

Because looking like that is just so realistic? Ugh. (Photo from Google Images)

 

The Hunger Games: No gender roles!

As you might know, the movie “The Hunger Games” came out recently. It’s based off of the book.When the book opens, North America as we know it has been destroyed and is now divided into 12 districts, ruled by an oppressive government located at the Capital. Katniss Everdeen, a 16-year-old girl from District 12, takes her younger sister’s place as one of 24 “tributes” selected every year to participate in the Hunger Games at the Capitol.The Games pit children from ages 12 to 18 against each other in a fight to the death in a giant, treacherous arena. Everything is televised and highly publicized all over the country. Katniss must not only survive the Games, but deal with a romance between her and another tribute from District 12, all the while deciding if she is willing to kill strangers her own age as a pawn of an oppressive government.(Read more: http://www.seattlepi.com/lifestyle/blogcritics/article/Book-Review-The-Hunger-Games-by-Suzanne-Collins-900110.php#ixzz1qzWHwtOi). I saw this movie and something I liked about it is that unlike the majority of the media, this movie did not have strong gender roles. Here is why this movie is different than most:

  • Katniss is the protaginist. She hunts to keep her family fed, she can shoot a bow and arrow well,and she can set traps. She is skilled, and in most movies and books, traits like these would automatically be handed to a male character.
  • There are no body image issues in the book or movie.
  • There is no sexualization of ANY of the characters.
  • Katniss’s strengths are based off of personality, not gender.

I could go on, but I think you get the idea. What do you think about the Hunger Games? Do you agree? Disagree? Comment below and let me know!

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Photo from Google Images!