These are tips I am giving because of personal experience I have had coming out to various people in my life, so I hope it is helpful to some of you. If not, that’s okay to, because everyone’s process is different, but these are some things that worked for me, and hopefully they will work for you to! Some of you may not know what “Coming out” is. Coming out is a process without a distinct ending in which a person gradually becomes aware of, claims, and develops their identity as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, or basically anything that is not cisgender or heterosexual. To me, coming out is letting the people around you aware of your identity. Since I have been “Out” or openly lesbian for about 2 or 3 years, I have some experience with this. Here are some tips on Coming Out:
- Don’t do it until your ready!- If you come out before you are comfortable with yourself and your identity, it will be harder for others to accept it. Don’t feel like you have to tell anyone until your ready to.
- Be confident! – If you are confident with your sexuality, it is more likely that others will be okay with it.
- Be casual- If you don’t want to, you don’t have to necessarily make it a big deal. In my experience, when I’m casual about it and just say “yep, im gay” people are more casual about it as well and its no big deal.
- Don’t take it to heart– If you have a family member or friend that doesn’t accept your gender identity or sexual orientation, don’t take it personally. Remember that some people need time to adjust to it, and give them space. It is in no way your fault.
- Have a plan! – If you think that your family might freak out, or kick you out of the house, have a back- up plan! Have a support system! Friends you can call, or even stay with are helpful to have in this kind of situation.
In the past few years, these are some things I have found helpful with “Coming Out” to everyone in my life. The longer you are open with your sexuality, the easier it gets to let people know. Remember, if someone else doesn’t accept it at first, don’t take it personally, they just need time! Comment below with YOUR coming out story, or tips that you have found helpful with coming out! Thanks (: