First of all, I will define what a “Sugar baby” is. A sugar baby is a woman who provides companionship and/or sexual relations for a wealthy, older man in exchange for expensive gifts and/or money (according to Urban Dictionary). I have watched Tv shows about Sugar babies, and from what I’ve seen, they are usually girls who get a “Sugar Daddy” or a wealthy older man, to buy them expensive clothes, jewelry, vacations, and luxuries in exchange for companionship. Some girls do it to pay their way through school, and on one show I saw a woman who used multiple sugar daddies to afford sending her daughter to private school. She didn’t want to work so she said that she would live off of sugar daddies for the rest of her life.
In my opinion, girls who are self-proclaimed “Sugar babies” are basically selling themselves. It’s a way to take no personal responsibility for paying for your own things and gaining a sense of self-worth and accomplishment. The thing that I find odd is, most of the men who are sugar daddies choose young girls they find attractive to accompany them on trips and to events. In a way, its similar to prostitution. I mean sure, wouldn’t we all like an easier way out? Someone to pay for everything for us? But does it really make sense to get paid to be “friends” with an older man? I personally feel like being a sugar baby might cause some young women to feel insecure and inferior. Feeling like you can be bought can’t be a good feeling. The whole “Sugar babies and sugar daddies” thing to me, is a way to reinforce sexism, misogny, patriarchy, and low self-esteem in women. Having a man do everything for them can make them feel like they need someone else to do things for them, rather than being independent and responsible.
Some say it’s gross, and others don’t see a problem with it. What do you think? Comment below and let me know (:
Here is a clip about Sugar babies found on http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o1tgLAysOAU (: