This post is about personal interventions, meaning, if someone says something offensive, a personal intervention is meant to confront and handle the situation. For example, if someone says something racist, sexist, or offensive in any way, this might be helpful for approaching the person.
- Be safe, time and place matters!
- Context and relationship matters. It depends on who the person is and how close you are to them.
- The nature of the remark is important!
- Remember: There is no perfect thing to say.
- You have to make a decision before responding.
- Think about this: Who is the intervention geared towards?
- Use variations of: “I don’t understand” or “I’m confused” instead of using harsh language.
- Go back to your relationship- let the person know your only confronting them because they matter to you!
- Respond to whats real, don’t go looking for offense.
- Don’t respond by making an equally offensive remark and do not embarass the person. This will only make matters worse.
- Take personal responsibility for your own feelings.
- Remember your “rights” to feel comfortable around the person, and let them know if they are doing something offensive.
- Remember where other people are coming from.
Things to remember:
- Silence is usually interpreted as approval or support.
- Our work is about issues, not blame. Leave peoples self-esteem intact.
- Inaction is an action!
I hope this is helpful, and if you have any examples of personal interventions that worked/didn’t work for you, comment below or e-mail me! Thanks (: