No means no

Many people seem to believe that rape or sexual abuse is caused by something the victim did or said. This is FALSE. The victim is never to be blamed. Rape and sexual abuse is NOT caused by:

  • Flirting
  • Drugs/Alcohol
  • Clothing
  • Going out alone
  • Agreeing to Hookup
  • Being in the wrong place
  • Dancing

A lot of the time people say things like “They were asking for it the way they were dressed” or “Well they shouldn’t have gone to that party alone”. No one WANTS to be forced into something and taken advantage of. We should all be able to go out and have a good time without worrying about abuse. If the person is/says:

  • Nothing
  • Under the influence
  • “No”
  • “I’m not sure”
  • Is unconscious or asleep

Basically, if the person says anything but YES, take that as a NO. No means no. Saying nothing does NOT mean yes. When people blame a woman for dressing provacativly, do they realize that men, children, and folks of other genders get raped as well? We should be able to go where we want, talk to who we want, and dress the way we want without having to worry! Never blame the victim! Another thing to remember is: Rape and sexual abuse occurs in relationships! It is actually MORE common for abuse to take place between two people that are dating. Just because you are dating someone, doesn’t mean you have the right to do anything with them whenever you want. No still means NO. Be aware that rape and sexual abuse can happen to anyone! It isn’t their fault no matter what the situation was! Photo from:


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