As most of you probably know, today is Valentines Day. Valentines day is a day to celebrate love and the happy aspects of it, but what I want to talk about is the ugly parts of love, such as abuse. Abuse can happen in all kinds of relationships. One in three teens report being in an abusive relationship at some point. Abuse only gets worse, so I want to educate you about different kinds of abuse, and signs of an abusive relationship. First, I want to let you know that there are four main kinds of abuse.
- Physical-kicking, punching, hitting, shoving, biting, slapping, ect.
- Emotional-Controlling and Manipulating.
- Verbal– Name calling, put-downs, and threats.
- Sexual– Forcing sex, manipulating, using threats to make someone give in to pressure to do something sexual.
Usually, the relationship doesn’t start out abusive. It gradually gets worse and worse. These are some warning signs that the relationship is unhealthy, and could become abusive.
- Extreme jealousy/getting possessive
- Gets angry quickly and easily
- Pressures you to do something sexual
- Embarrasses/Humiliates you
- Blames you whenever they are sad, mad, ect
- You feel trapped in the relationship
- Uses threats
If you have expierienced any of these, your relationship could be unhealthy! The best thing to do is break up with the person (if you feel safe to) or tell a trusted adult!
You are in an abusive relationship if your partner:
- Hits, kicks, bites, shoves, or hurts you physically in any way
- Forces you to have sex or do something sexual
- Puts you down and embarrasses you
- Threatens, manipulates, or controls you
These are not the ONLY signs of abuse. Just know that you have the right to:
- Be in a happy, healthy relationship
- Speak your mind
- Dress the way you want
- Hangout with who you want
- Make decisions around sex for yourself
- Love yourself
- Be treated equally
- Change your mind
- Live your life without fear
- Be loved
If you are not being treated the way you deserve to be, get out of the relationship! Your not alone! If you need help, or you know someone that needs help, go to:
It is important to let someone know what is going on! Abuse is not okay and the victim is never to blame! Speak out against abuse and violence!