Have you ever noticed..?

In many fashion magazines for young women such as “seventeen” and “vogue” there are tips about body acceptance. Does anyone else find it a bit contradicting that in the same magazines, dieting and exercising is promoted as well? Yes, it is always a plus to be healthy, but dieting keeps your body from receiving the proper nutrience it needs. Also, when all the featured women in the magazine are stick-skinny, it isn’t exactly encouraging. In seventeen, I have seen it several times. There will be an article about accepting and loving yourself and your body, but the clothes for “full-figured” girls are far less revealing or tight. How does that help bigger girls accept themselves? Covering up your body rather than highlighting your fat thighs or round tummy isn’t going to help you feel confident. It is almost making the assumption that larger girls don’t feel comfortable in tight clothing, and don’t advertise it towards them. Images like the one below are targetted towards extremly skinny girls. These types of bathing suits are rarely, if ever, shown on an average -sized girl. Images from Google Images(:

These kind of bathing suits are targetted towards “bigger” girls.

What do you think about this? Do you agree? Disagree? Comment below and let me know what you think(:

Quote of the day by: Isaac Asimov

“There is a cult of ignorance in the United States, and there always has been. The strain of anti-intellectualism has been a constant thread winding its way through our political and cultural life, nurtured by the false notion that democracy means that “my ignorance is just as good as your knowledge.” – Isaac Asimov

Do you agree? Disagree? What do you think of Isaac Asimov? Comment below and let me know (:

Photo from Google Images (:

The Hunger Banquet

The Hunger Banquet is an activity which shows classism and puts us in a postition we might not have been in before. This is how the hunger banquet starts:

1. You recieve a piece of paper with a colored dot on it, either green, red, or yellow.

– These three colors represent

  • Poor/lower class and working class
  • Lower and Upper middle class
  • Upper class

So basically, the three colors represent:

  • Lower class
  • Middle class
  • Upper class

2. The setup

– In the hunger banquet, there will be a fancy table set up with chairs, for about 2-5 people.

– There will be an area with about 8-12 chairs.

– There will be a huge area for about 10-30 people to sit on the ground.

– The numbers may vary, depending on how many people are participating in the activity, but the idea is: There are not many people sitting at the table, there are more people sitting in the chairs, but there are even MORE people sitting on the ground.

3. For example, if the colors went this way

  • Red-sit at the table
  • Green-sit on one of the chairs
  • Yellow- sit on the ground

You would sit down depending on what color paper you got.

4. Next: The people sitting at the table are helped by a fancy looking waiter, who brings them salad, a nice meal, drinks, and treats them with kindness and courtesy.

The people sitting on the chairs get a plate with a little bit if okay food.

The people sitting on the ground get barely ANY food.

5. The Idea:

  • The people participating in the activity will see how it feels to be in a different socio-economic class and they can’t do anything to change it.
  • It gives a better understanding of classism and uneven distrubution of wealth.

6. When I took place in this activity:

  • I was on the ground, therefore I was a “lower class” person. All I got was beans, rice, and some water.
  • The people in the chairs got an enchilada and lemondade.
  • The people at the table got salad, enchiladadas, sparkling water, and dessert.
  • The waiter was rude to the lower class people while he was walking by to give the upper class people their food.
  • The lower class people went on a strike and refused to eat their food until things were fair and equal.

I hope this gave an idea of how this activity works. Its REALLY powerful, and for me, it gave a better understanding of classism. There were only a few upper class people, who got the best service. The middle class was pretty big, and what they got was Okay. But the lower class was the biggest, and we were suffering the most. We were hungry and after a while we got sore from sitting on the ground. If anyone wants to do this activity, please comment below and tell me how it goes! Thanks (:

How to use GENDER NEUTRAL pronouns~

Something i talked about in an earlier post titled “education about identities” is being gender neutral. There are people who do not identify as male or female. They identify as gender neutral. The pronouns for people who do not identify as any particular gender are ze and hir or they and them. Of course, this doesn’t apply for everyone who doesn’t identify with one gender or another, but many people do use there pronouns. I want to talk about how to use them, because some people aren’t sure how to. This is how they are used:

  • Hir jacket is right here. (Hir replaces him or her)
  • Where is ze? (Ze replaces he she)
  • Where are they? (Once again, they replaces him or her)
  • I’m going with them to the movie (Them replaces her or him)

I hope this gives a general idea of how to use gender neutral pronouns! If anyone has any expirience with gender neutral pronouns, comment below and let me know! Thanks (:

Tips on: Coming out of the Closet

These are tips I am giving because of personal experience I have had coming out to various people in my life, so I hope it is helpful to some of you. If not, that’s okay to, because everyone’s process is different, but these are some things that worked for me, and hopefully they will work for you to! Some of you may not know what “Coming out” is. Coming out is a process without a distinct ending in which a person gradually becomes aware of, claims, and develops their identity as gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender, queer, or basically anything that is not cisgender or heterosexual. To me, coming out is letting the people around you aware of your identity. Since I have been “Out” or openly lesbian for about 2 or 3 years, I have some experience with this. Here are some tips on Coming Out:

  • Don’t do it until your ready!- If you come out before you are comfortable with yourself and your identity, it will be harder for others to accept it. Don’t feel like you have to tell anyone until your ready to.
  • Be confident! – If you are confident with your sexuality, it is more likely that others will be okay with it.
  • Be casual- If you don’t want to, you don’t have to necessarily make it a big deal. In my experience, when I’m casual about it and just say “yep, im gay” people are more casual about it as well and its no big deal.
  • Don’t take it to heart–  If you have a family member or friend that doesn’t accept your gender identity or sexual orientation, don’t take it personally. Remember that some people need time to adjust to it, and give them space. It is in no way your fault.
  • Have a plan! – If you think that your family might freak out, or kick you out of the house, have a back- up plan! Have a support system! Friends you can call, or even stay with are helpful to have in this kind of situation.

In the past few years, these are some things I have found helpful with “Coming Out” to everyone in my life. The longer you are open with your sexuality, the easier it gets to let people know. Remember, if someone else doesn’t accept it at first, don’t take it personally, they just need time! Comment below with YOUR coming out story, or tips that you have found helpful with coming out! Thanks (:

Photo from Google Images (: 

My top 5 movie and book recommendations for the activist (:

1. Book: The Vagina Monologues by Eve Ensler – This is a book that has stories from women all over the world! I read it, and it was so amazing and eye-opening! It is a book that you will love if you are interested in feminism and body acceptance. You don’t have to be a woman to enjoy this book, it’s great for anyone to read! Its educational in a fun and engaging way.

2. Movie: Paris is Burning Directed by Jennie Livingston- According to Wikipedia, it is “Filmed in the mid-to-late 1980s, it chronicles the ball culture of New York City and the African American, Latino, gay and transgender communities involved in it. Many members of the ball culture community consider Paris Is Burning to be an invaluable documentary of the end of the “Golden Age” of New York City drag balls, as well as a thoughtful exploration of race, class, and gender in America.” It is a great film to watch if you are interested in LGBTQQA history, gender,or  people of color in the queer community. It is a powerful, educational film.

3. Book: I am an Emotional Creature by Eve Ensler (again)- Eve Ensler is an AMAZING author. This book is about the “secret life” of girls, all over the world. This book will make you laugh, it will make you cry, and it is a book that almost everyone can probably relate to. It is powerful and well-written. It is a great book to read if you are interested in gender, feminism, or women’s studies. Once again, this book isn’t only for women, it is educational and it can speak to anyone.

4. Movie- Save the Farm Directed by Michael Kuehnert- This is a short documentary about the nation’s largest urban farm in Los Angeles. It is a great film to watch if you are interested in farming, being environmentally friendly, nutrition, and environmental activism. It also shows poverty in a big city, so if you are interested in classism, watch! This movie almost made me CRY!! I don’t want to give anything away, but it’s really inspiring.

5. Movie: Boys Don’t Cry Directed by Kimberly Peirce- Saddest. movie. ever. But it is a movie that I think everyone should watch. It is about a transgender teen who is biologically female, trying to pass as male. I think it really shows the hate that is directed towards the queer community and it is based off of a true story. Its educational, and it will  help you have a better understanding of how it is to have to hide who you are. If you are interested in learning about gender, hate crimes,or  the LGBTQQA community, you must watch this movie!!

If you have seen any of these movies or read any of these books, comment below and let me know what you think of them! Also, let me know your favorite books and movies for the activist! Thanks (:

Just Communities 10 YEAR ANNIVERSARY!

Today, at about 10 in the morning, I arrived at a honey and milk farm to help set up for Just Communities 10 year anniversary party! What is Just Communities? It is a local organization that works towards dismantling oppression in the community and making it a better place for everyone. Just Communities is the organization that provides CLI, the camp I went to over the summer. When I heard about the event, I decided to volunteer to set it up. I was there from 10, until about 5. Since I helped set up, I got to stay at the event for free, where there was coffee, desserts, raffles, and music. This is a picture I took when I first arrived of the farm outside (: This is a horse on the farm (:And a bunny (:

Overall, it was a really awesome event! Ya’ll should look into similar organizations in your town and get involved! Check out Just Communities at http://www.just-communities.org/ (:

What is beauty?

This is something I wrote during the summer, when I was feeling judged for my lack of “femininity” and my choice not to shave. ENJOY! Image found on: http://weheartit.com/entry/20787414/via/imaginepeace (:

It seems like nobody ever questions what they are doing. Why am I wearing makeup? Why do I shave? Why do I want to be skinnier? Whenever I ask someone to think about these questions, their immidiate response is usually something like “I do these things because thats what girls are supposed to do”. Well, says who? Society. The reason so many women/girls do these things is because of socially constructed ideas of beauty. We are socialized to believe there is only one way to be beautiful. We see it everywhere. So many of us do change, or wish we could change the natural state of our bodies just to conform to what is considered to be the right thing to do.

When we do these things, it is like we are saying it is okay to oppress us in this way. It is okay that we are made to feel like we are not good enough. It is like we are saying all we are good for is “being beautiful”. I am a girl and I deserve respect. I am not my body. I am not my bra size or the size of my jeans. I am not a shade of lipstick. And i am not here for you. I am not here to please you and look the way you want me to look. I am sick and tired of having other girls ask me why I dont shave, or why I dont wear more makeup, or why I dont dress differentely. I dont do those things because, why should I? I am me. I am not a product of the media and the messages I get around me.

I am my own person and I will do whatever I am most comfortable with. I am not my appearence, I am my mind. I am my thoughts. I am my feelings and ideas, not my clothes or my hair, or any other part of my physical appearence. I have a voice and i refuse to be silenced simply because I am a girl. I refuse to be seen as nothing but boobs and a vagina. I refuse to be seen as a sex object. I am a person and I have views and ideas I want to share. I am tired of being looked down upon by girls who think and act the way a socially-stereotyped girl is supposed to. Those girls are not any better than me. I am just as much of a woman as they are. I’m tired of people making a big deal about me not shaving my legs. I am tired of being laughed at. Because you know what? The joke is on you, I am fighting against sexism and stereotypes and I just want to be me. Whoever that may be.

Our gender “norms” are fucking us over, because not all women are the same. We are all so different and we are all so beautiful. I hate hearing girls talk about other girls who dont dress “girly” or dont wear makeup, or dont shave. And saying they are “guyish” or making the assumption that they wish they were a guy, just because they dont look like a socially-stereotyped women “should”. I wish these people would open there eyes and realize that we are not meant to be alike! Being different is beautiful. And beauty is not makeup. Beauty is not long hair. Beauty is not having shaved legs or wearing a dress. Beauty is not your body, but the volume of the soul that it carries. It breaks my heart to see so many girls struggling with low self-esteem or feeling like they are not good enough. Fuck what people say! Your not to fat. Your boobs are not to small. Your not to loud. Your not ugly. Your not to emotional. None of that. You dont need to change. EVERYONE is beautiful!!!! And for someone to come and tell you that your “ugly” or “not good enough” is just so wrong. Because no one has any right to define what beauty is and tell you that you arent it. Everyone has beauty in them. No one has the right to tell you to “act like a lady” or to change the way you look. Because not all women are meant to be the same. You are all so beautiful, i promise.